To know and to be...

The other day I was chatting with a friend of mine K...
We were talking about the current stage of our life, work and love life. The topic of marriage came about as K was talking about her own experiences with romance. She mentioned her refusal of 'settling down' with some guy who's head over heels with her because she felt no attraction. Amidst the peer pressure, due to age and culture, she felt the burden and confusion.
I think her refusal is not for 'settling down' but instead to 'settle'... I strongly believe that she is right to look for someone that's right for her instead of someone who's in front of her.
Everyone SHOULD be looking to a great life for their own future benefit, instead of just settling with what they currently have. Someone once said that "the enemy of a great life is a good life". Often times we avoid taking chances with our lives for the fear of losing what we got. I say, do not regret things that you've done, only regret things that you didn't do.
With that, everyone is different, yet everyone is full of potential. My friend Master Djedi once told me, "we have to play with the cards that we are dealt". However, every once in a blue moon, a pair can beat a straight.
However, with the choices and distraction in life, I believe that our first step is to know ourselves, who we are and what we want in life before we proceed at full throttle.
Looking back on my recent years, I realized how lucky I am that trough my trouble and tribulations, I was able to finally learn more about myself, who I am, what I want and who I am not. Know yourself then you can be all YOU can be...
Now I am living a more peaceful and focused life and most important, as the great STYLE stated again and again, BALANCED LIFE. Don't get me wrong, even with my narrowed down vision, it's still hard as hell chasing everything I want. Work, Kendo, be in better shape, knowledgeable, family, social life and fun are a lot of things to work on. Money we can get, it's the time and energy that we can't help.
Some may see my current life as boring and mundane. Don't get me wrong, it gets repetitive, frustrating and lonely at times. However, there's an underlining joy in working towards something, goals that you believe in. Settled down, perhaps I am... Settling, hell no I ain't...