"... but I really hope we can still be friend..."

I think the full sentence goes somewhere along the lines of, "I'm sorry I can't be with you, but I really hope we can remain friends"
I have been on the receiving end of that line for a few times during my lifetime and let me tell you, if it's meant to be some sort of a consolation line, it doesn't work at all. I have always thought that line to be a selfish and mean statement from someone that feels you aren't good enough to be their significant other, yet they want you to be your friend.
Little did I know that I almost said that line myself, or at least thought about it.
After a couple of months of confusion and hesitation, I decided to take a step back and trying to look at things in from a different perspective.
You know I have never been a person who decides on anything because it's possible or easier for me, instead I always go after the things I wanted, regardless of the success probability.
This being said, now what actually happened was...

About a month ago, I called BellyDancer on the phone, because it had been about a week or so since we taked, at the time...
I found her in the midst of her crying... about what, I don't know... but I am guessing perhaps I had something to do with it.
I tried my best to console her and dancing around the issue at the same time, plus she didn't want me asking about it at all... I feel bad that for the fact that I may have seriously hurt someone's feelings, a position that I never wanted to be in. Yet I found inadvertantly doing it...
I wanted to say something along the lines of "we can be friends" However I realize how stupid and selfish that be and stopped short of it.
BellyDancer was hurt, perhaps due to my (in)action, she has every right to hate me if she wants to. I understand and I will take the responsibility...